What actually is therapy, anyway?

Debunking Counselling Myths:

What Therapy Really Is

When it comes to counselling, there are plenty of myths that can put people off seeking support. TV shows, films, and even well-meaning friends often give the wrong impression of what therapy involves. In reality, counselling is far more down-to-earth and supportive than many people imagine.

Here are some of the most common myths – and the truth behind them:

Myth 1: Counselling is only for people in crisis

Truth: You don’t need to be at breaking point to come to therapy. Many people seek counselling to understand themselves better, improve relationships, or make positive life changes. Counselling is about growth as much as healing.

Myth 2: A counsellor will tell me what to do

Truth: Counselling isn’t about advice-giving. Instead, it’s a collaborative process. I’ll listen closely, ask questions, and support you in exploring your own thoughts and feelings. Together, we’ll work towards the answers that feel right for you.

Myth 3: Talking about problems will make me feel worse

Truth: It’s natural to feel nervous about opening up, and emotions can feel strong at first but most people quickly notice a sense of relief. Sharing your experiences in a safe, supportive space is often the very thing that lightens the load.

Myth 4: Counselling takes years

Truth: There’s no fixed length of time. Some people only need a few sessions to notice change, while others value longer-term support. The pace is determined by you and depends entirely on your needs.

Myth 5: It’s all about the past

Truth: While your past may shape who you are, counselling is also very much about the present and future. Together, we can explore unhelpful patterns, develop new ways of coping, and create the changes you’d like to see for yourself in the future.

Myth 6: Counsellors are cold or judgemental

Truth: At its core, counselling is about human connection. A good counsellor offers warmth, empathy, and acceptance and is never judgemental. My role isn’t to analyse you from afar in the old-fashioned Freudian style, but to sit alongside you and support you as you make sense of your world.

Final Thoughts

Counselling isn’t mysterious or intimidating – it’s a safe space to be yourself, explore your feelings, and move towards change. If things you’ve heard have held you back, I hope this gives a clearer picture of what therapy really offers: a place to feel understood, supported and grow into who you want to be.